Hi Everyone, welcome back to our last session in Bringing Heaven Home, ‘The World Needs a Father’ and the Mothers’ Design in The Roles of A Mother.

In our last session, we talk about the Role of A Mother and one of the Key Responsibility is to Validate the Husband and trying to build up a United Front, so that our children can feel safe because they know the boundaries in which they are in. By doing so, we can Bring Heaven Home together in turning the hearts of our children to parents and parents hearts to our children till our Lord Returns.

And now next, Mother needs to Impart Intimacy to Our Children.

Imparting intimacy to our children goes like this. Intimacy is the special connection between two person where words are not always necessary. Women, generally speaking, have a deeper longing for intimacy than their male counterparts. It has been said that male friends live shoulder to shoulder with few words – fishing together, watching sport, working on a car – while women live face to face – having a cup of tea, discussing a book with conversation about the prime activity. And women want eye contact, conversation and non-sexual affection.

The intimacy between husband and wife creates environment in which intimacy can be transmitted. Children thrive in an atmosphere of harmony.

Imparting intimacy to the children.

Intimacy can enhanced by Being Connected By The Eyes. Our eyes communicate the connectedness or disconnection. This can be seen by watching mom’s eyes, children know if mom is connected with dad. To have good eye contact is important. By Sharing Wounds That Unite. Couples bare their hearts together by being transparent. We are attracted by strength, but bond through weakness. The most intimate space is the space of pain.

Imparting intimacy is also enhanced by Praying Together. Couples that prays together stay together; children need to see intimacy between mom and dad to cultivate that intimacy in their own marriages.

Mother And Child Intimacy. Intimacy between mother and child begins at birth. This intimacy paves the way for intimacy with the father, mother, family, extended family and friends.

Intimacy Protects. It is so important that mother nurtures this relationship of trust, transparency and intimacy with her child. Children must feel free to discuss any problems with their mothers – total transparency is needed.

Defining Feelings. Mothers are usually better at defining feelings. Building emotional openness helps our children connect with others. By building emotional intimacy with our children, our children will develops self-confidence and security.

Now, let’s look into our next point, our mother role is to Nurture and Care for Our Children.

Nurturing and Caring for our Children goes like this. Showing Love and affection – the primary function of a wife is to love her husband and children.

Next, to have a Nurturing Environment – a nurturing environment is a space where everyone can thrive. Especially in our children growing up years; we need to create a space in our home to allow our children to grow physically, emotion nally, socially, intellectually and spiritually. To develop our children to grow in holistically. Parents, don’t unduly pressure children to understand each others abilities of the child and their weaknesses.

Smothering – A mother’s protective nature is a powerful force, but if it gets too strong, it becomes smothering. Mother is often protective over children. We must remember that asour children grow older, we need to learn to release and let go.

Nurturing and caring for our children continues on.  For example, when our children grown up into adulthood, they start to have their own career and get married to begin their own family. Some mothers will struggle emotionally to release their sons or daughters. It is important to release our sons/ daughters when they bond with their life-partner of his or her choice. Others may struggle when our children may want to be independent to go overseas for studies or choose their own career and life-partner. We need to learn to grow to release our blessings to allow our children to have freedom of choice. The key is to build strong foundation in their younger years, so that they will have the right value and that to guide them to have the wisdom in make godly choices.

God has designed mother to provide strong emotional and medical care for children. Remembering, when we are sick, mother is always the one, most of the time, the first to attend to me when I am not well. And as a child when I am down, when I need someone to talk to at home, mother will be the first person that I go to. So, women were created to excel at this.

Fourthly, God has made mother to have a strong social network in bringing family together. Maintaining strong social network serves the social concerns of the family – a sense of belonging with one another both within and outside the home, is one of the deepest human need.

Significant Others – Mothers are often the glue that keeps the family together. For example, during Chinese New Year, mother is always the key to bring everyone together by cooking and we will all come together to eat and enjoy and have great family time.

Modeling Altruism – Mother shows and guides children how to care for others, like in helping others who are in need, caring for the elderly, taking care of the animals etc. All these started when children are young to develop good value and character.

To maintain good social network. Example in the areas of the choice of friends children mixing with. Mothers are great in providing the opportunity to observe and cultivate socials skills of children. By inviting children home, getting to know them, their friends, and knowing who they are, mothers can better guide them to choose good friends. To build healthy friendship and to help them in making the right choice of friends to make a positive influence.

With this very transparent and intimate connection between mother and child, this is the way to pave for the child, to share about their relationships with their mother. Mothers also plays a major role in helping the child to develop responsible emotional management, not to be driven by emotional swings.

And finally to Be a Primary Homemaker as a mother. She will create a home that everyone feels welcome when home. Home is where I can be myself, where I can recharge, and where I can feel safe and accepted. Home is place that we can have fun, to play games and enjoy mother’s cooking, eating my favorite home-cooked food. Most mothers function well as the logistical coordinator at home.

Children need Role Modeling. Children know when mothers are being real – they need to see Jesus in them. For example, love is patience, love is kind. To see and to understand and to feel God’s love through the Mother…Mothers are the point of reference of God’s love for their sons and daughters. To pass on faith, hope and love to our children from generation to generation.

That’s all for today. Thank you for listening and watching. These are 5 key responsibilities for Mothers. May the Lord bless you and keep you all and for God’s blessings as we Bring Heaven Home together. Shalom.